How to get out of your head

When I entered the university, it dawned on me that one of the reasons I was once depressed was my inability to control my thoughts. I would enter a dark hole of thoughts and luck myself inside. It gets hard because it would feel like happiness is just far away. They're so many things to worry about, things I couldn't let go of. I let myself fall. I came out of that hole, but I didn't know that overthinking was something I needed to look into before being completely whole.

It was not an easy journey, it still isn't. Because sometimes one can get stressed out and take the easy way, and that's negativity.

Now Let's look at the hard way, which is how to get out of your head.

Self-affirmation: have you ever tried looking at the mirror and saying to yourself "I'd be okay" Sometimes we face so many challenges, and since the way to sadness is an easy one, we take it. Feel sorry for ourselves and get sad, and lost in our thoughts. Trapping ourselves. but when you keep reminding yourself that you'd be fine, that it's just temporary or you could fix it. You'd see yourself being okay, and fixing it. It's not easy to just believe, but that's faith. When those negative thoughts come, remember to remind yourself you can overcome them.
Another way to go around sself-affirmationis to have those particular words you say to yourself when you're about to get stuck again.
For example: if work stress always puts you inside your head, try using this words like, I'd be fine,
Things will get better,
I'm strong.
My favorite is, one-day things will go my way. I sometimes try hard, and it's as if things aren't working out. I always remind myself that one day, things will go my way. It has helped me to keep my faith going. I know that regardless of what's keeping you stuck in your head if you just remind yourself you're better than your problems, you'd realize you are.

Try the positive what if: if you haven't noticed, we tend to put our what ifs on negativity.

What if he didn't show up

What if I fail the exams

What if I never fit in

What if I lose my Job

What if I Die

All those what-ifs are the kings of getting stuck in your head, they are the partways.

Let's take an example. You realized that your parents are about to get divorced, and they want to try out therapy one last time.

The normal response is, what if they end up getting a divorce what will become of our family?

What if they don't?

What if their divorce was for the best?

We hardly think of the positive possibilities of every outcome, but focus our minds on the negative possibilities, which end up in sad thoughts and get into our head, which ends up in depression. Whenever something isn't going your way, try the positive what if.

Try one small thing: regardless of how big your problems are, there's always one small thing to be grateful for. Sometimes we just get too busy with our thoughts to realize.

Maybe you failed a test, and you are already up and going with the negative what-ifs. Why not look for something to be grateful for? At least you ate after the test, or at least it's just five marks, I will do better. Or at least I wrote the test. Try thinking of something to be grateful for. It doesn't have to be big. Just small. and focus your mind on that thing.
Your one small thing could be one particular person, someone that rocks your world, someone that makes you happy. Focus on that, on the fact you get to wake up every morning and realize the person is right beside you, or that whenever you need the person, they'd be there.
Your one small thing could be your children, the little ones that give you Joy. Seeing them every morning, as they have their little arguments that make little or no sense. How cute and innocent they are. That could be your one small thing.
Your one small thing could be that you're in your dream Job, no matter what life throws at you, you know that you are happy where you are, no matter how depression wants to fight its way to your mind, you remember your success and your smile.
Your one small thing could be knowing that your God is alive, he's always there for you. No matter what you're going through, you know he got your back, he'd never leave or forsake you.

Positive thinking: you fight negativity with positivity. Once those thoughts come, force yourself to think of something good. Maybe an interesting movie, or God's goodness. Don't let those thoughts win, show them who's the Boss. You can do it. When your mind says, you can't make it. Tell your mind "I'm going to make it, and there is nothing you can do about it."
When your mind tells you no, say yes. When your mind says you can make it, think of the beauty of making it. Positive thinking amid negative thoughts, will add to you, and make it easier for you to get out of your head. Hi

Distract yourself with something you love: when those negative thoughts come, read your favorite book, or listen to your favorite songs. watch your favorite movie, and go out with your favorite friends. Anything that will both distract you and make you happy. It works. Though it could be temporary, that's why you fight to be happy, regardless.
Don't limit yourself, especially when you know you love doing this particular thing, try to be free. Do it because you want to, not because you're being forced to do it. Be open to it.
You could even write a bucket list, and make sure to fulfill all of it. That would make you happy. When I decided to stop overthinking and being depressed, I decided to go back to doing what I love and always wanted to do. I started writing again, and learning how to play the piano. I watched any movie that I've always wanted to watch. Just go for it, happiness is always worth it.

Lastly, focus on solving the problem not the problem: many people dwell on the issues at hand, instead of looking for ways to solve them. They dwell on the fact they lost their jobs, instead of looking for other job opportunities.
Example:
"Oh my gosh I failed this test again"

Why don't you study the subject for a change?

"Oh my goodness I can never be a good mother"

Why don't you seek advice for a change

"My mates are rich, I'm here suffering"

Why don't you try working hard to be who you want to be rather than complaining and overthinking?

Do you get it?
Try to look for solutions, think of the solutions and not the problem. You'd see you won't get stuck in your head, and you won't be overthinking.

Learn to write your thoughts down: writing can be a good way to regulate your thoughts. Whenever you get overwhelmed with your thoughts, try writing them down. Last year, I was depressed and had a lot of things to work on, then I started writing down my thoughts. It helped me, it was my therapy. And I think it will help you to overcome getting stuck in your head, you'd be letting it all out.

Talking about it: whether it's going to therapy, talking to a friend or family. Talk about your problems with anyone you know who would listen. If someone offends you, talk about it with the person, don't hold it in. If someone is making you feel uncomfortable, talk about it. You'd be happy you did.
You have the right to express yourself, you shouldn't be apologetic about it if you continue holding it in and thinking about it. You're doing yourself more harm than good, so learn to express yourself in any way.
Also, don't be share to visit a counselor, there's nothing wrong with it, if you want to talk about your problems with a professional do it, don't listen to what others are saying, they don't know what you're going through, they're not there when you get stuck in your head, and you're filled with sadness and uncertainty. If you want to move on from thoughts that are killing you, and you think going to a professional will be beneficial for you, then do it without thinking about others. They don't matter.
Instead of thinking too much, do it: if you want to do something, just do it. Give yourself 3 counts, and get up and do it. If you want to ask someone for something, stop thinking about whether the person would say no, instead just go and ask. You'd never know what the outcome will be. Like the popular saying: "You never know until you try." So, stop thinking and instead talk yourself into doing it.
Meditate: this has to do with focused concentration, bringing yourself to the moment, as often as possible. Learn to meditate. On good things, on the beauty of God's works. Whenever you feel like your thoughts are getting the best of you, go to a quiet place and meditate, trust me you'd get better. You can add a slow song, to make the moment even more relaxing, or your favorite song, depending on what you want, because that's always important, what you want.
Try doing something nice: when you do something nice, there's this Joy and satisfaction that comes with it. The fact that you made someone smile, you gave hope to someone or you made someone's day. That's enough to keep you in your happy place for a long time. Don't hold back, treat your best friend to lunch. Pay your parents a surprise visit. Buy something nice for your children, anything. You'd see that you'd be too happy to let any negative thoughts rule you.
Forgive: forgiveness sets you free, liberates you from your thoughts, it makes it easy to be happy.
Forgiving someone can be hard, I know. Especially when you trust someone so much, and they betray you. It becomes hard. Do you realize you're hurting yourself not them? You're the one consistently having them on your mind, you're the one always asking yourself what you did wrong for them to hurt you badly. Not them. Learn to forgive, tell yourself they're not worth it, and you're happy you realized who they are. Forgive them, even when they didn't ask for it.
Another form of forgiveness is forgiving yourself. if you dwell in regrets, you're stuck in your head, trust me that's not a good place to be. If you did something wrong, the most important thing is that you're sorry and you won't do it again. It's okay to move on, it's okay to forgive yourself.
Remember this Life is always going to be Life, we can't choose how things play out, but we can choose our reactions. Don't take the easy way by overthinking and getting stuck in your head. But the hard and profitable way, choosing to be happy regardless. So whenever you see yourself getting stuck, try doing these things.